As a parent, you play a special role in contributing to the needs and development of your child. Youth soccer provides an opportunity to develop many skills beyond those associated directly with the sport of soccer. Through participation in youth sports children learn about sportsmanship, teamwork and many will build friendships that will take them through high school and beyond. Through your encouragement and example you can help assure that your child, as well as other children in our program, learns good sportsmanship and self discipline. Help them to learn to enjoy good spirited competition, to enjoy winning and to deal appropriately with defeat.
Below are some simple guidelines that help ensure that the children in our club have the opportunity to learn the game of soccer and develop not only as athletes but as representatives of the values of our club and community.
Support your child by giving encouragement and showing interest in their team. Teach them that hard work and an honest effort are often more important than victory. That way your child will always be a winner despite the outcome of a game.
Remember, your child is the one playing soccer. Let your child establish their own goals and to play the game for themselves. Take care not to impose your own standards and goals on them.
Reinforcing positive behavior is the best way to help your child achieve their goals and overcome their fear of failure. No one likes to make mistakes. If your child does make one, remember its all part of learning, so encourage your child’s efforts and point out the good things your child accomplishes.
Spectators are required to sit on the opposite sideline from the coaches and players. Parents and/or other spectators are not allowed on the player sideline.
Be a positive role model. Spectators must refrain from shouting any type of instruction or criticism from the sidelines. This can be confusing to the players. Specifically:
Spectators are required to refrain from shouting negative comments from the sideline. Applaud good plays by your child’s team as well as good plays by the opposing team. Support all efforts to remove verbal and physical abuse from youth sports activities.
Spectators must refrain from refereeing from the sidelines. Referees are often young, just a few years older than your child, or parents just like you or. Referees are certified, meaning they’ve completed pre-requisite training. This doesn’t mean that mistakes don’t happen or that a ref sees everything that happens on the field. Being a referee is not an easy job. Show them the respect that they deserve.
Spectators must refrain from coaching from the sidelines. Coaches are usually parents just like you. They volunteer their time to help make your child’s youth soccer experiences a positive one. We recognize that a parent has the right and in certain instances the responsibility to converse with coaches to understand and/or voice concerns regarding team and club policies. Parents must refrain from doing this on the field or in front of the players. See Parent Tips for Establishing a Positive Relationship with a Coach attached.
It is the parent’s responsibility to be at the field during the Saturday morning in-house sessions, practices and games. Do not assume that the coach will be aware that you are not at the field. If you cannot be at the field, please coordinate with another parent or one of the coaches to ensure that your child is properly supervised.
All spectators are required to abide by these guidelines. To help ensure compliance, board members, coaches and referees will monitor spectators.
The North Branford Soccer Club reserves the right to restrict attendance at games and practices of anyone who fails to comply with these guidelines.
Parent Tips for Establishing a Positive Relationship with a Coach
In order to create the best possible athletic experience for a child, it is important that parents respect the coach and make an effort to establish a positive parent coach relationship.
Make early contact with the coach to establish a positive open line of communication.
Recognize the commitment of the coach and the many hours he/she spends on and off the field preparing and teaching your child.
Take the time to compliment the coach when there is just cause. Coaching is a difficult job and all too often coaches only hear complaints.
Be there to support a child and cheer them on regardless of how well they play. Focus on the positives and let the coach correct mistakes.
Do not instruct a child during a game or practice. Parents are not coaches and it can be confusing to a child to hear instructions from someone other than a coach during a game.
Cheer for all the players on the team and be sure to praise them for playing well.
Encourage other parents to honor the game. If someone is showing disrespect for the other team or officials, respectfully suggest they honor the game.
Do not attempt to discuss the coach's game plan or voice suggestions for plays or coaching techniques.
Do not put a player in the middle of a situation by complaining about the coach in front of the child. If a situation or concern arises, arrange to speak with the coach privately.
Do not approach a coach directly after a practice or a game. Emotions are at their highest at this time and can lead to a volatile situation. Observe a cooling off period of 24 hours when emotions are heated before discussing an issue with a coach.
Follow the chain of command if the coach has assistants. Always address the head coach personally and respectfully when issues arise.
Do not discuss concerns/issues with other parents or coaches. Take concerns directly to the head coach.